The “Should-be” Content for a Modern Ketubah
Ketubah is the one of the most important traditional customs during a Jewish wedding because this symbolizes a Jewish marriage contract. During the wedding ceremony, as part of their tradition, the married couples need to sign the Ketubah in front of the rabbi and the witnesses of their wedding. But with the modern world today where many couples don’t really follow any traditions, or those that are not religious or interfaith couples and even those who belong to the LGBT community, create their own version of modern Ketubah as part of their wedding ceremony.
The content of a Ketubah or Ketubot for plural term is the newly wed couple’s vows and promises including responsibilities for each other through a written version. This is an art form, like a frame, that is hanged on the wall’s home so as to remind them of what their live is all about throughout the years. Aside from that, a modern Ketubah can also serve as a pre-nuptial agreement. It has been proven that at least 20% of the married people who failed in their first wedding prefer to have a pre-nuptial agreement for their second marriage so as to be prepared to whatever might happen in their relationship.
There are guidelines in making traditional ketubahs and you may follow these steps for to you to create your own modern Ketubah as a preparation to your Jewish wedding:
First of all, you need to know your desired design, style, artwork and text for your Ketubah but make sure that it suits both you and your partner. You can ask for suggestions and help from you rabbi since they are more experienced in terms of wedding ceremonies as well as being part of the wedding ceremony per se. You may also want to hire a mediator that will help you and walk you through a step by step process in this type of agreement. They are the ones who can help you to understand the needs and wants of you and your partner.
This agreement is also used to serve as a traditional reason to protect the welfare of the woman or wife and the future children of the couple. The content of the Ketubah also clearly states the condition wherein the wife and children will not be taken for granted in the event that there will be a divorce and also to guarantee financial support.
Married couples will be more comfortable writing their vows in a Ketubah text. This marriage contract should be written from the heart. You should be able to write by expressing what your heart feels like being loved and how you will love the person unconditionally and abide by rules of marriage.